I know — this is not a pubic hair story, but it is a vagina one. I couldn’t resist sharing:

The fine people at Open File Halifax have posted an article about the fact that the statue of Edward Cornwallis (widely credited with founding the city of Halifax, though he’s a controversial figure) has got a  new felted vagina.

This is guerrilla art at its finest, no?

Read the whole article here:

http://halifax.openfile.ca/blog/curator-blog/photo/2012/felted-vagina-edward-cornwallis-improves-statue

 

 

 

I love it when people send me little bits of pubic hair related news and gossip. Today I got this (which I presume refers to something a professor did in a second year english class earlier this week).

From the Facebook group called “Overheard at Queen’s” (a university in Kingston, Ontario):

Wendy Reid
ENGL 292
Berg: (drawing female stick figure on the board, adding pubic hair) Oh, you don’t have that anymore do you? (erases hair).

Like · · Follow post · 45 seconds ago near Kingston, Ontario

Thanks for your kind and encouraging words after my last post. I’m glad to be back — though as you can see, still not keeping up with posting as readily as I would like. Still, I’m back in a pubic-hair-state-of-mind again: I’m having more conversations with people about the ol’ short-and-curlies (I’m a joy at a party, let me tell you), and am starting to pay more attention to the issue in the media again.

Speaking of which:

I was listening to CBC Radio the other day — for those you not in Canada, it’s our public broadcaster — when I heard some subject-appropriate material on the morning current affairs program called The Current. The host, Anna-Maria Tremonti, was talking to the people behind a new documentary called ‘Sext Up Kids’ (a trailer of the doc is available here). The film explores the “hyper sexualization” of kids — from the availability of kiddie lingerie, to the complications girls contend with when their sexy cell phone pictures get sent out to the world by spurned (and immature) boyfriends. The normalizing of pubic hair removal among young women also came up.

I have to admit that I didn’t manage to catch the doc when it aired on TV last week, but I did enjoy the conversation Anna-Maria had with the filmmakers on the radio. I think this is a fascinating and complicated issue — and while I know plenty of teenaged girls who haven’t allowed the media to convince them that their most powerful tool is a flaunted body, it’s also hard to ignore how powerful and pervasive sexed-up culture is these days (do I sound like an old person yet?).

If you have a few minutes, listen to the CBC Radio interview here:

http://www.cbc.ca/thecurrent/episode/2012/02/23/sext-up-kids—how-children-are-becoming-hyper-sexualized/index.html

And as always, I’d love to hear what you think.

(and just as an aside: I was just going to search for an image I could use with this post, but I’m writing from a local cafe and I realized that any search for “sexy little girls” would not leave me looking very good. I’ll leave it for now…)

 

 

Hi all-

Firstly, let me apologize for disappearing on you for months like that. As I may have explained back in November, my life recently got a major overhaul. I moved to a new city, started a new job (which wasn’t going to be full-time, but now is), and have been busily working at building myself a community and a life in this new place.

I haven’t forgotten about you, though. It’s just that the days keep blurring together…and while I’ve been whole-heartedly intending to post new stuff to this blog, somehow the months have slipped by.

I’m grateful, too, to the friends and regular readers who have been continuing to send me links and letters (yes! I got a fabulous letter IN THE MAIL from a reader!) full of ideas they think I’d be interested in sharing. When a friend wrote recently to say “I miss your blog”, I knew it was time to take action: I either had to give up on the site altogether, or I had to kick it up a notch and start posting again. This is me opting for the latter.

So – here goes. Consider me back. I won’t be posting every day, but I’ll do my best to post whenever I come upon something relevant and/or interesting.

Today, I’m going to start here:

This is a pair of women’s underwear by a company called ‘House of Holland’ — these are the “Full Bush Cheeky Short”. A quick glance through their lingerie collection reveals that the company’s tastes tend towards the slinky and sexy…so my guess is that this suggestion of full bush is meant to be a cute joke… an homage, perhaps, to the hair that is likely never allowed to rear its pesky little (curly) head(s).

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Of course, for those women who just want to state it like it is, there’s always this option:

These are the “Bald Cheeky Shorts”. I’m inclined to think that the designer probably imagined these as being an updated version of the famous “days of the week” underwear — only perhaps in 2012,  the idea is that you can use your briefs to declare the state of your nether regions.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Fun? Offensive? As always, I’d love to know what you think.

And if you’ve got any ideas about stuff you want to see posted here, feel free to send ’em my way. I’m looking forward to being back in touch…

 

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I don’t know about the rest of you, but as we near the end of November, I’ve been thinking a fair bit about ‘Movember‘. Everywhere I look these days some guy is proudly sporting a moustache. While I have nothing against raising money for worthy causes, the conformity of Movember has been doing my head in. At my graduation ceremony a couple of weeks ago, I watched man after man stride across the stage and shake hands with the university admin while wearing a silly ‘stache. I couldn’t help but wonder what the photos were going to look like in, say, twenty years.

That’s why I thought this blog entry about “No Shave November” was interesting. Here in Canada I don’t feel we’ve heard a lot about it — at least if it’s happening, it’s not getting anything near the press that Movember’s getting. The idea is to avoid shaving altogether for the entire month of November — and unlike Movember, both men and women are allowed to participate.

In fact, I just found this nice little editorial on doing just that — growing out your hair — written by a young woman at Indiana University South Bend. She makes some good points and it’s worth taking a gander at.

If you’re participating in No Shave November, drop me a line. I’d love to hear what the experience has been like for you…

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Vulvapalooza!

Well… I have become a very bad blogger, indeed. Sorry about that. You give the girl a Master’s degree, and then bam.. she gives up on you and stops posting regularly. You, my readers, have been on my mind, but my mind has also been pulled in a million other directions lately. I’ve started a new job in a new city, I’m moving, I’m trying to sort out the “what’s next?” questions… you know. Life – it’s busy.

But I haven’t forgotten about pubic hair! Every day, things pop up, crying for attention on the blog. And every day slides past without me getting to posting. So – here we got again! Though I can’t promise daily posting, I will do my best to keep the conversation alive here at The Last Triangle.

Today seems like a good day for me to direct you to a site a new Danish friend of mine sent me. The project, called ‘Kussomaten’ was initiated by a feminist group in Denmark. Women basically sat in a booth and had their genitalia photographed. The goal of the project (and this is crucial to note), was not pornographic – it wasn’t about taking under-skirt photos for arousal purposes. Instead, the goal was to highlight the diversity among female bodies — something I know I’ve written about in this blog before (especially whenever the issue of labiaplasty rears its sanitized head).

So: if you’re reading this at work, or are in a room with a bunch of people you’d rather not see you look at a screen full of vulvas — don’t click on this link now. If you aren’t, or you’re fine with opening a discussion around labial diversity, here’s the link:

http://kvindekenddinkrop.dk/kkdkpix.html#

It’s a fascinating site — the diversity really is amazing.

Looking forward to your comments!

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Never Gets Old

Nope, pubic hair continues to thrive as a topic for debate in online forums everywhere. Today, I will direct your attention to an article on Salon.com called “Is Everyone Manscaping?” which mostly goes on about the same old stuff. This little tidbit did pique my interest, however:

“Last year a study out of the Kinsey Institute found that there is “no one dominant pubic hair style” among women. Young ladies are far more likely to have experimented with different degrees of deforestation but most women have “at least some pubic hair on the genitals.”

Agree?  (The article is mostly about men, however).

And more man-stuff: you can follow one man’s (very detailed) recounting of the experience of getting a Brazilian wax at RVA News. Nathan Cushing tells his story in three parts, the second of which is here:

http://rvanews.com/entertainment/going-south-deep-into-the-danger-zone-part-ii-of-a-brazilian-wax-story/52358

And finally –

If you haven’t read it yet, I would strongly recommend you cast your eyes over this fascinating and disturbing article by Marie Myung-Ok Lee that ran recently in The Guardian. The article explores cosmetic gynaecology – the demand for which (at least according to the article) has “never been higher – taking us behind the scenes at a disturbing little convention where women’s vulvas really do become straight up commodities.

I’d love to hear what you think about anything you’ve read.

 

 

 

 

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As I mentioned in my last post, I am very keen on having more voices represented in this blog (not just mine, telling people what I’ve observed). I’ve been asking you to send in your own stories and am pleased to report that I’ve got a great one to start with.

This was submitted recently by “Tocxica” — I’ll let her take it from here:

I Used To Be An Avid Shaver

I used to be an avid shaver. Every other day whether I needed it or not, all of my “hair down there” would be ritualistically culled by my mighty Venus razor. Why? Simple, that’s just what you did. As a child of the 90’s I grew up with the mindset that pubic hair was dirty and unattractive. Who told me this? Well…no one in particular. But it just was. Right? You never really spoke about it. Boys did, but not girls.

Porn was the cause of both my systematic shearing of my pubes and later my refusal to ever shave again. I was twelve when I first discovered the nasty secret of the curly hair that would someday soon be overtaking my lower parts. Some boys from my class were crowding around a magazine and on the centerfold was a nude woman with a thick bush of hair between her legs. It didn’t take long for me to overhear the disgust my classmates had for the hair, or for the jokes to set the thought into my mind that any woman with hair between her legs was a freak. I would never get hair between my legs like that. And then just a short year later, I did.

Fast forward five years and a landfill full to the brim of dull razors, while working on my senior project for school “Sex in Society” I am given a lovely copy of a French erotic magazine with full on bush. At first I was shocked. I asked the person who had given it to me if this was fetish porn. “Nope, just regular old porn.” She said with a strange, confused look on her face. Okay, so it wasn’t some weird French hair fetish porn. I began to look beyond my initial shock at seeing a woman with pubic hair on the cover of an apparently normal pornographic magazine. I noticed the beauty. Why had I spent my entire adolescent life trying to keep myself from looking like this? Why had I suffered the nicks and irritation, the ingrown hairs for Heaven’s sake! It was an epiphany. I didn’t even know what my natural pubic hair looked like! I had begun shaving it as soon as it appeared!

Now I’m married with a daughter and a chipper outlook. Until recently that is. I was playing around on Facebook (a guilty pleasure of mine) when I came across a link posted on a debate page I belong to. Accompanying the link were these questions ‘Being totally shaved/waxed “down there”, is it creepy and “fetishizing the look of prepubescence”, or just a personal preference? Does your s/o weigh in on how you maintain that area?’

Always up for a good debate I scanned the comments before tossing in my two cents as well. My stomach dropped. Out of nearly forty comments absolutely NONE were pro-pubes. Quite the opposite in fact. There were comments like “GROSS!” and “pubic hair is so dirty and nasty, whoever wrote that artacle[sic] is obviously some dirty hippy”.

Having been on both sides of the hairy fence, I decided to weigh in about why I love my pubic hair. How it hurts when it first begins to grow back, how time consuming the upkeep is, and how it hurts when you’re shaved and your partner isn’t. I also went on to ask why every single one of them considered pubic hair to be so horrible. The most coherent response went exactly as follows “here is my reasoning…i dont want hair in my mouth, why would my husband or my girlfriend want it in THEIR mouth? second- i HATE having blood from my period stuck in the hair during the day- i dont have time to shower every time i change a pad, i shower 1-2times a day. third- i work out, i dont want stinky sweaty hair down there while i work out. fourth- i dont like it it “sticking” out of my swimsuit or sexy panties”.

This response made me want to rip my hair out. Seriously? Unless your partner is taking “carpet munching” seriously, there shouldn’t be any hair between their teeth. God forbid you have blood on you during your PERIOD! The horror! The third reason was my favorite. In fact, I giggled about it for a good three minutes or so before replying. Perhaps you’ve picked up why I thought it funny. When exercising correctly, you get sweaty and stinky. That’s why they have showers at most gyms. If you aren’t breaking a sweat, you aren’t doing it right. Her final reason was the easiest for me to reply to. “Try to buy clothing that fits properly then.” I’m no longer very popular with them now.

This led me to ask a few friends of mine their views on pubic hair. Being used to my open discussions on sex and sexuality they answered right away. Here are two of my favorite responses; “ok so, down below i like to keep it where I look like I’ve never hit puberty lol 😉pastedGraphic.pdf annyywhhooo on others , such as my ex gf sometimes she was shaven sometimes not, I didn’t exactly mind as long as she didn’t look like a chubacca that would kidnap my chin….when it comes to oral sex I think I prefer at least trimmed on girls as well as guys (oh no a lesbian has given a blowjob lol) I don’t mind a little hair just but looking like your vagina came from the 60’s or 70’s doesn’t do it for me lol” and “Trim it, but don’t shave – I hate to scrape my face on someone’s 5 o’clock shadow. And long and scraggy is just a turn-off. Always makes me wonder if they even wash…”

Do I feel like a hairy freak? You betcha! Do I care? Not at all! I love my pubic hair! Why wouldn’t I? It’s part of the awesomeness that is me. I’m all for personal preference, but I do wonder why my (in most cases) liberal monster friends are so disgusted by their pubic hair.

-Tocxica, October 2011

Male, female, young, old — if you’ve got a story or opinion to share, please send it to me at mdault [at ] meredithdault.com



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So firstly, allow me to apologize for my total AWOL status — all I can tell you is that I’ve been busy. As you are probably already aware, I started writing this blog as part of my Master’s thesis project, which I backed it up with a longer-than-anticipated paper (in which I included excerpts from the blog and comments from readers like you). The paper was a bit of a slog for me, but I got through it.

Last Thursday, before a committee of three, I defended my project and successfully earned my Master’s degree (I’ve been decompressing ever since!). I want to thank all of you for your thoughts and encouragement around this project and the kind of stuff I have been writing.

But even though I’ve earned the degree, I’m not yet ready to give up on the blog or on thinking about the politics of pubic hair. This issue isn’t going away. There’s lots more to say.

That said, as I ease myself back into the working world, I would like to change things up a little bit. Up until now the primary voice you’ve been reading is mine. Sure, I’ve interviewed people and included their opinions in my entries — but at the end of the day, it’s all been mediated through me and my experience.

What I want now is more variation and input from readers. I’d love to have more guest writers expressing themselves here. I need more variety in the voices we’re hearing from: I’d love to have more input from men, from women of colour, and from people who challenge the boundaries of gender. If you’re feeling shy about your writing, feel free to dash something off and submit it to me for editing. It’s your ideas and experiences I am after — not perfect writing.

I promise to post more frequently than I have done for the last few weeks! And I really look forward to hearing from you and to including your experiences and writing in my posts. (You can submit your writing to mdault [at ] meredithdault.com)

 

 

 

 

Bare Boys

A friend recently sent me a link to this great article that appeared recently on the Bitch Magazine website (don’t know Bitch Magazine? start here…)

The article is called “Isn’t He Lovely: Bare Down There And Everywhere Else,” by Cristen Conger.

The well written article is about the new hairlessness among young men. The author talks about the notion of a “sanitized ideal” for men that seems to be taking the mainstream by storm. As she writes:

We’re talking hair-free, sweat-free, odor-free; in other words, the same unrealistic standards peddled to women for so long, à la leg and underarm shaving. And like the hairless female ideal, it isn’t just the most visible fur that men are tending to these days; statistically, men groom their pubic hair more than any other type of body hair (sans beards).

Though I haven’t formally embraced looking at male body hair practices (I’d love to though… just give me time). The article does point out (and rightly so) that while the increased pressure for me to depilate is sort of disturbing (in the sense that any widely normalized, readily embraced mechanism of body control is), men don’t face nearly the same levels of stigma that women do should they decide NOT to embrace the practice.

And again, the article asks some of the same questions I have around women’s pubic hair grooming habits: will the trend persevere as men age and settle down, or like with women, is the trend very much a short lived practice tied in with youthful, commitment-free sexuality.

I remember one of the young women I interviewed telling me about one of her regular ‘hook up’ partners, and the fact that being hairless was, in a sense, part of the ritual:

“It’s definitely more appealing,” she told me. “There was this one guy.. we were hook up buddies, I guess. I invited him over, and he was like ‘oh, I just shaved for you,’ and I was like ‘oh, cool…oh, I just waxed too.’ It was like, I did this thing for you. It was a positive thing…you know what I mean?”

There must be something in the casualness of the hook-up that is balanced by the ritualized grooming practice: it seems to acknowledge that ‘I know that we have this meaningless, strings-free intimate relationship, but I still did my part before showing up’.

You know what I mean?

 

 

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